Cherished readers, due to circumstances beyond my control, I’m away from the keyboard today, so I hope you’ll forgive me for a repost.
The writer’s group that I belong to discussed a chapter from my current work last night, and I was reminded of the adage: “Once you tell your story, it no longer belongs to you.”
It is fascinating to hear my characters viewed through the eyes of others. The view is not always favorable, of course, since this group is a microcosm of the reading world, but it is helpful to know the misses as well as the hits.
I must weigh these diverse views. Is Jalal is too perfect or is Jalal too uptight? Is Meredith strong and sure of herself or has she lost her identity? My characters cannot be all things to all people. I have no control over what baggage my reader brings with them into my story, making the same scene “completely real” to one and “over the top” to another.
Writing is like birthing and raising a child. There comes a point when you have to release your child out into
the world. You hope that all you have taught them has taken hold, and they will be all right in the big bad world. Though you know the people they meet will not love and protect them the way you do, you pray that most will treat them well, and you dream they will find someone who cares for them as much as you do.
I can only hope that once I tell this story, someone will make it their own. A million someones would be nice.
Very true… the process of writing is quite personal… you dont really share it with anyone…but the finished product is..well, it ceases to belong to you wholly… Indeed, I would think it gives the author immense pleasure to see his characters being interpreted through a variety of perspectives.. it lends a whole host of welcome flexibility!
Yes, Dark Lord, the nature of story is that it’s meant to be told … words given away, to be taken in and made your own. Exciting.
Well, since I didn’t find your blog until after you posted this the first time, I’m happy you re-posted. Took me a while to get the hang of letting go, to accept that my story and characters “cannot be all things to all people.”
Then I read this advice from Betsy Lerner (paraphrasing): Don’t write the story that everyone likes. Everyone likes vanilla ice cream, but they don’t necessarily “feel” anything about it. Write the story people love or hate. Either way, they’ve been moved.
I like that quote. It’s hard for me to fight the urge to please. Now, I’ll try to remember my goal is to not be vanilla!
I *love* vanilla ice cream!
[But I love peanut butter chocolate more.]
Be sure to let me know if my vanilla progresses to peanut butter chocolate, okay?
Linda – I also found your blog very recently, so am glad for your re-posting.
Thanks for some great insight. Although I considered varying reading tastes in my reviewers, I haven’t thought much about their baggage.
Judy – thanks for passing on that great quote. My favorite ice cream (hard to find) is black licorice. I’m confident there are others out there who like it as well.
I’m happy you found something worthwhile in my respost.
I love black licorice jelly beans, but I’ve never had the ice cream.
is it any surprise i like nuts in mine? ; )
No, it’s not.
Happy as well for the repost. Love the idea of setting something created free to become what it is destined to be…I’ve been saying that for years….great minds and all that….stay true to what feels right to you and then when you release it to the millions out there who will read you? shock and awe Linda, shock and awe…..
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Thank you for adding your thoughts, Karen. I just returned from my critique group and right now I feel my “child” might only produce a shrug and a whimper, but it will get there.
At a writer’s circle one evening a lady said that when she writes she envisions someone standing behind her shoulder, taking it all it, but who knows what they see?
I wish I had someone reading over my shoulder, maybe it would save me some editing later.
Better for readers to have an opinion about your work than for them not to care. Better still is for some to have a favorable opinion. I’m guessing your child will find friends when it leaves you for the world, Linda.
I welcome the insights and opinions of other writers, I think what usually throws me off is that what I expect they will find lacking is never what they do. I do hope I’m not creating an orphan.
I have to say that I laughed when I read Paul’s comment. As I was typing, I thought, “Someone is going to argue for vanilla ice cream.” I decided that was okay.
I think the point, of course, is not whether or not vanilla ice cream has its advocates. (That sounds like an excellent job title to me – Vanilla Ice Cream Advocate.) It’s that if you try too hard to make sure everyone likes you, you stop taking risks, you stop writing scenes that challenge your readers and make them see things differently than they have before. Remembering that has helped me fight my own tendency to seek unanimous approval.
Taking risks … not a natural thing for me to do. I think I must be too vanilla!